because I am a coward
and I couldn't tell you in real life how I felt or what I was thinking and it was so easy to click Unfriend.
It was a spur of the moment decision, not planned ahead of time or calculated, just a momentary surge of outrage and sadness and disappointment in you, in the country, in humanity
in myself too, for thinking that clicking a button on a social media site would make me feel better.
The truth is it made me feel worse.
Because I want to get along and go along and not make a big deal out of everything, not make waves or stir up drama. Because I want to be a nice person, a good hostess, a caring friend.
Because you are my family, my friend, my neighbor and I already knew that you had different opinions from me so why should knowing your opinion, today, matter?
But it made me angry when you showed yourself to be ignoranthatefulracistbigotedmisogynistic and I know you or thought I did and anyway, don't we have to draw the line somewhere? At the denigration of Muslims and Mexicans and people of color and anyone who is not white, or the mockery of gay marriage or the joking about sexually assaulting women and girls?
Except who cares about social media anyway?
I mean, ten years ago we lived just fine without it and who would even know if you thought it was funny to compare the First Lady to an animal or had an irrational fear of a transgender person using a public restroom or were cool with flying the confederate flag?
But I do know. And now that I know, I can't unknow.
Why do we see the world so differently? Why are we so broken and hurting and terrified and angry and quick to judge others and constantly outraged
Can we have the courage of our convictions? Can we bridge the gaps between us? Can we forgive?
Is it even possible to be friends?