until I won or lost,
and then I'd play again. And again. Until a half hour went by. Or an hour. Or more, even, and each day I'd tell myself, I AM NOT OPENING THE SOLITAIRE GAME TODAY and then I would open the solitaire game because there was the little colorful icon smack dab in the middle of my computer screen
and I was feeling lazy and crappy about myself
until one day, I deleted the game from my computer.
lately, I've been doing this thing whenever I'm stuck working on a book, where I click on Facebook and then click on Twitter and then click on Yahoo and scroll through the headlines, gasping sometimes in horror, and back onto Facebook and Twitter to share my outrage, back onto Facebook to read the comments and onto to Twitter to see if anyone's retweeted me, half zoning out,
half zinging with rage, until a half hour goes by or an hour or more,
and each day I promise myself I WILL NOT GET ON SOCIAL MEDIA OR READ THE YAHOO NEWS HEADLINES and I open my computer and there are the icons splayed across the top of my screen
and I feel lazy and crappy about myself, alternately enraged and powerless, knowing I need to stop but then feeling
guilty, because shouldn't I be a good citizen and know what's going on in the world, and who am I to turn off social media and retreat into a quiet safe bubble, and isn't that just so privileged of me to get to do that when other people don't have the luxury
click click click click click
until it hit me that I am playing solitaire again,
but a million times worse, because there is no end to this game and sitting here in front of the screen, eyes glazed over, is not helping anyone
Plus, I'm not even getting my writing done.
It's time, I know, to delete the game.
So, last week, I took the necessary steps. I deleted my social media apps from my phone, and had a momentary flare-up of panic, and then I laughed, because I was remembering this time maybe fifteen years ago when my son's school sent home a paper saying it was Turn Off the TV Week and I told him and his younger sister that I thought we should try it, and my son argued with me and his younger sister literally flung herself on the floor and had a tantrum, and I stood looking down at the two of them, thinking, Hmm, some people are addicted to watching TV.
My son, now grown up and working at Facebook of all places, and my daughter, away at college and super adept at managing her social media, both gave me pointers for limiting my usage, such as
turning off all notifications and setting up Do Not Disturb on my phone and OH MY GOD MOM why do you have Yahoo News as your homepage??!!
and I stumbled upon an app on my own called Stay Focused, which is awesome, because it's free and you can block sites and set up parameters for yourself and when all else fails and your finger's getting very itchy to click,
you can detonate what they call The Nuclear Option, which shuts down all websites and it's a beautiful beautiful thing
just as pleasing, if not more so, than deleting that silly solitaire game all those years ago.
Never did the solitaire, but I know I'm hooked to SM, except I refuse to put it on my phone so I have to turn on my laptop, which helps. Here's to our focus this November.ReplyDelete
Thanks, Kathy! Stay strong :)Delete
I completely relate to this!ReplyDelete
We need to form a support group, Yvonne. I know we're not the only ones.Delete
I relate to this so much.ReplyDelete